Can We Talk Honestly About The Latest Incident With Lavar Ball & Kristine Leahy?

Let me first of all state that I think both Lavar Ball and Kristine Leahy from FS1 suck in their own special ways. This ain't about picking sides, this is about the tangled web that's weaved by the irresponsible media, the flamboyant and undeserving personalities that same media fawns over, & the public who have knee jerk reactions and pick sides between the two for the flimsiest of reasons. That being said, the latest incident (the Kyrie Irving incident is unfolding as I type this) with Lavar Ball going on the Colin Cowherd sports show and firing back at co-host Kristine Leahy for her criticisms of his parenting, ZO2 shoes, and overall Lavar-ness, illustrates more than ever why this guy needs to go away. If you haven't been paying attention, I'll summarize: Lavar refused to talk to or even physically face Leahy, dismissed her as a hater, stated his Big Baller Brand isn't for women, & depending on how you interpreted it, issued a threat to Leahy as well. He reacted to her criticisms the way most bullies do. He couldn't figuratively or literally face the music. I've commented on Lavar Ball in the past and how I find him to be nothing but a brash, ignorant, greedy blowhard who's making black fathers look bad, but I ignored the likely outcome that people of his ilk often see: they eventually screw up, say the wrong thing to the wrong person, burn one too many bridges, and next thing they know their run is over and they get dropped by the same people who raised them such famous heights (this outcome has also been predicted for our current president). I kind of knew in the back of my head that this dude was gonna get his eventual, what the legendary Paul Mooney calls, his "nigga wake-up call". In other words, he will experience a moment where's he's reminded of his place as a black man in white America. They'll keep putting those cameras on you to document your tomfoolery and get ratings, but as soon as you forget your "place" and step on the wrong toes, you will get reminded of what they really think of you. I'm also tired of our people defending this clown with the same old "he's a black father who's in his sons' lives!!" statement. Just because a black man is a present father, doesn't mean he's a good father. Sure, statistically the majority of black children do not grow up in a home with their biological dad, but that doesn't mean we should give this dude all the wiggle room and excuses in the world just because he chose to stick it out with his white wife. I have no issues with interracial dating, but I point that fact out to say Lavar's situation is different from the majority of the black community and thus he should not be touted as some sort of example for black men who walk out on the black women who bear their children. Lavar's agenda is clear. He's pushed (and will keep pushing) his sons on the world and toward lucrative careers in the NBA and will do so in the way that grabs the most attention. That doesn't make him a good father though. Simply "being there" or being present, does not make you a good father. No more than the ratchet mothers I see in Walmart cursing out their 2 year old are good mothers simply because they're there.  As for the reactions from this Leahy incident, she has claimed she's received death threats from the fall out of this incident, but I think she'll be alright at the end of day. She's a young, white, attractive, blonde who can discuss sports intelligently, so she'll always be able to bounce back and have a decent career. Lavar, however, is a different story. The mainstream American media is way less forgiving of black men who speak their mind. But let me say: Lavar, this criticism is what you've asked for once you make the decision to jump in front of those cameras every chance you get. People (who are paid to do so) are going to question your business acumen, your sons' talent, and yes... even your parenting. You signed up for this. But I think he'll bounce back from this and hopefully learn to be more discerning in his words and actions, but I fear the damage he's doing to the image of black fathers might not be so easily repaired. As for Leahy calling for other sports networks to ban Lavar Ball from appearing on their shows, its clear it is just sour grapes. Like my wife once told me "when people show you who they are, believe them." Homie has been disrespectful of current NBA players, retired NBA players, players' children, other sports commentators, & even his son's college teammates. What made you think he wasn't eventually going to get around to disrespecting you??!!!??! But, its all good as long as he's doing it to others and getting you ratings, right?! And to my fellow black people getting behind this dude just because he's present in his sons' lives (albeit, in a very domineering way) and black man who's not scared to voice a strong unpopular opinion, he ain't Muhammad Ali. He's not speaking out against the evils of racism, encouraging knowledge of self or higher spirituality, or calling attention to any of numerous injustices that take are taking place today. He's just out for a dollar.      

Let me first of all state that I think both Lavar Ball and Kristine Leahy from FS1 suck in their own special ways. This ain't about picking sides, this is about the tangled web that's weaved by the irresponsible media, the flamboyant and undeserving personalities that same media fawns over, & the public who have knee jerk reactions and pick sides between the two for the flimsiest of reasons.

That being said, the latest incident (the Kyrie Irving incident is unfolding as I type this) with Lavar Ball going on the Colin Cowherd sports show and firing back at co-host Kristine Leahy for her criticisms of his parenting, ZO2 shoes, and overall Lavar-ness, illustrates more than ever why this guy needs to go away. If you haven't been paying attention, I'll summarize: Lavar refused to talk to or even physically face Leahy, dismissed her as a hater, stated his Big Baller Brand isn't for women, & depending on how you interpreted it, issued a threat to Leahy as well. He reacted to her criticisms the way most bullies do. He couldn't figuratively or literally face the music.

I've commented on Lavar Ball in the past and how I find him to be nothing but a brash, ignorant, greedy blowhard who's making black fathers look bad, but I ignored the likely outcome that people of his ilk often see: they eventually screw up, say the wrong thing to the wrong person, burn one too many bridges, and next thing they know their run is over and they get dropped by the same people who raised them such famous heights (this outcome has also been predicted for our current president). I kind of knew in the back of my head that this dude was gonna get his eventual, what the legendary Paul Mooney calls, his "nigga wake-up call". In other words, he will experience a moment where's he's reminded of his place as a black man in white America. They'll keep putting those cameras on you to document your tomfoolery and get ratings, but as soon as you forget your "place" and step on the wrong toes, you will get reminded of what they really think of you.

I'm also tired of our people defending this clown with the same old "he's a black father who's in his sons' lives!!" statement. Just because a black man is a present father, doesn't mean he's a good father. Sure, statistically the majority of black children do not grow up in a home with their biological dad, but that doesn't mean we should give this dude all the wiggle room and excuses in the world just because he chose to stick it out with his white wife. I have no issues with interracial dating, but I point that fact out to say Lavar's situation is different from the majority of the black community and thus he should not be touted as some sort of example for black men who walk out on the black women who bear their children. Lavar's agenda is clear. He's pushed (and will keep pushing) his sons on the world and toward lucrative careers in the NBA and will do so in the way that grabs the most attention. That doesn't make him a good father though. Simply "being there" or being present, does not make you a good father. No more than the ratchet mothers I see in Walmart cursing out their 2 year old are good mothers simply because they're there. 

As for the reactions from this Leahy incident, she has claimed she's received death threats from the fall out of this incident, but I think she'll be alright at the end of day. She's a young, white, attractive, blonde who can discuss sports intelligently, so she'll always be able to bounce back and have a decent career. Lavar, however, is a different story. The mainstream American media is way less forgiving of black men who speak their mind. But let me say: Lavar, this criticism is what you've asked for once you make the decision to jump in front of those cameras every chance you get. People (who are paid to do so) are going to question your business acumen, your sons' talent, and yes... even your parenting. You signed up for this. But I think he'll bounce back from this and hopefully learn to be more discerning in his words and actions, but I fear the damage he's doing to the image of black fathers might not be so easily repaired.

As for Leahy calling for other sports networks to ban Lavar Ball from appearing on their shows, its clear it is just sour grapes. Like my wife once told me "when people show you who they are, believe them." Homie has been disrespectful of current NBA players, retired NBA players, players' children, other sports commentators, & even his son's college teammates. What made you think he wasn't eventually going to get around to disrespecting you??!!!??! But, its all good as long as he's doing it to others and getting you ratings, right?!

And to my fellow black people getting behind this dude just because he's present in his sons' lives (albeit, in a very domineering way) and black man who's not scared to voice a strong unpopular opinion, he ain't Muhammad Ali. He's not speaking out against the evils of racism, encouraging knowledge of self or higher spirituality, or calling attention to any of numerous injustices that take are taking place today. He's just out for a dollar.